Need to be right


When two people are in conversation, it really shouldn’t be about right or wrong. If it is, the conversation can go very very wrong. Just ask one (or two, or three) of my third graders who are always in a verbal battle with someone. In this battle, he/she is totally missing out on the point of communication. Instead of creating an exchange, he/she is creating stress, ego, disconnectedness, distractions, and unfavorable attention.

He/she doesn’t yet understand that it is not always all about him/her. There is always the last word, a pouty face, or another complaint.

It’s interesting seeing third graders acting out like adults; and adults acting out like third graders. Listening goes a long way. If you are talking, complaining, arguing, or pouting, you are not listening. If you are not listening, you are not hearing. If you are not hearing, you are basically deaf.

You can join the world of the hearing, just by learning that it’s not about being right or wrong.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Your need to be right (as shown by your argumentative side) doesn’t look good on you and blocks you from learning new ways of thinking. Just for today, step down and listen.

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To read what others have said in response to this post and to post your own comment, click on the lavender colored word “comments” on the upper-right-hand side of this article. Can you tell when you are making a point just to be right? What do you do to stop yourself?

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